Hello my creative friends! Shade Rachea here with the next blog post and I am anxious to read and see what people have to say about this topic. So, today I want to talk about whether or not we can claim to have our ish together. Lately, I have been seeing a ton of posts by my peers on social media about their accomplishments and everything else that they have going on in their lives and it's had me thinking, "What the hell am I doing?", "I need to get out of Stockton?" and "Man, I need to get my life together". Most of my friends and peers are in grad school or headed there, have great jobs, are married, or are even traveling frequently. Me, I'm writing full time and teaching Creative Writing. I have my BA in English and have applied to grad school (here's hoping I get in and if I don't that's okay too) but is that enough and am I on the same page as my peers?
All of this plagued me for some time until I had a talk with a parent at the school I work for. We got to talking and it dawned on me that, the way I was measuring whether I was moving forward in life and had my ish together, was flawed. The thing is, I don't know what's going on in the lives my peers and at the time I didn't have a clear view of what having one's ish together really was and entailed. So, when thinking back to the posts of my peers, I realized that they may be accomplishing all of these things but that doesn't necessarily mean that they have their ish together anymore than I do. Pause, you may be thinking I'm saying this to make myself feel better about life but I'm not. As of two weeks ago (when I published my book), I have been quite happy and content with my life and how things are going. But that's neither here nor there, all I'm trying to get here is a grasp on what it means to truly have one's ish together and what that looks like. Okay? Good. Play.
So, obviously my thoughts have changed. Now, I'm thinking, "What is having your ish together?". Some people would argue that having your life together means you have a house or an apartment, you have a good paying job, and for some, are starting a family. The people that say this are wrong. I have seen and known many of people who have these things and their lives are a mess and chaotic. They don't have their ish together at all. They are just as lost as some of those without these things. So what is it, then? I believe having you ish together centers around your purpose in life and whether you are working towards it. And when I'm talking about purpose, I don't mean your belief that your meant to smoke weed or do something else as absurd as that for the rest of your life. I'm talking about something real.
For me, I'm finding that my purpose in life centers around teaching and writing. In the natural, I teach kids how to write and enjoy being creative and through my books I'm also teaching them things about themselves through the characters and the story. In the spiritual, I'm called to teach but not preach (LOL) and when the time is right, I'm sure you'll find me leading Shabbat school on a Saturday. Funny thing is though, I've been fighting this purpose for the longest and now that I have finally accepted it, my life doesn't feel as scattered and off track as I once thought. I know my purpose in life and I'm actively working towards it. I may not have the highest paying job or be in grad school or even be married, but I'm just as accomplished as my peers even though it looks different from theirs.
So, now the question is, do you have your ish together? What is your purpose in life and are you working towards it? Alright, guys. That's my spiel for the week. Drop your comments below and let me know what you think and what your idea of having one's ish together looks like. I'll see y'all next week on Wednesday for the next blog post.
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A contrarian at heart. I prefer The Lord of the Rings over Harry Potter and Narnia. I love Country Music and John Hughes movies and am the worst at singing the correct lyrics.